adultery: real experiences. no fantasies or spin-a-yarns please.

fellows,
lets share our pure, real life experiences of adultery here.
what i am curious about , what your replies should contain is-
how did u end up with a gal/guy despite disclosing your marital status.
did u lie that u are single or that you are soon to be divorced?
was/is your affair platonic or purely physical or something in between?
meeting your pre-marital ex will not count so please dont describe it unless you didnt have affair back then.
any unreal tale will give us right to lambast you in lighter vein coz for fiction we have a seperate section.
those with no self experience but wish to express their thoughts about the topic are welcome.
while i primarily thought men as target posters , women are welcome to share their experiences too. single gals who got involved with a married guy can share their in depth mental state experiences and lesson learnt if any.
single guys adamant to prove that they met an unsatisfied aunty /bhabhi and ended up fucking her should stay away from posting.
thanks all.